Marriage is great. It?s beautiful, rewarding, enriching, and a lot of fun?but there are times when it?s a lot of work. This is just a fact of life: if you spend a lot of time with another person, you?re bound to bump heads every once in a while. This is why many relationship gurus say it?s important for couples to learn to ?fight fair.? If you learn how to disagree without being destructive, spiteful, or downright mean, it will be much easier to handle those inevitable lover?s spats.
But how, exactly, do you fight fair" It largely boils down to what you say?or more accurately, what you SHOULDN?T say. Here are a few key phrases that can really erode the foundation of your marriage. Whatever you do, never say these five phrases to your spouse! 1. ?This is your fault.?
When you?re stressed out, overwhelmed, and upset, it can be so easy to lay the blame on somebody else. After all, you can’t possibly be the one who made yourself this angry! Your spouse?s words or actions started this fight, so your spouse is to blame?right"
Simply put, we?re always responsible for our own feelings?even if someone else?s actions triggered them. Telling your spouse that something is ?their fault? will only put them on the defensive, which ultimately builds a wall between you both and makes making up even more difficult. Instead of placing blame during an argument, focus on the role you play in the situation. How can you diffuse your anger" What do you need from your spouse i...