I think many people approach sex a little backwards after marriage. In the first year or two or five, sex may be automatic and easy, but after that (or even before), you may find yourself just?never in the mood. Or in the mood at opposite times. Or too annoyed to care that you might be in the mood! Rather than focusing on the end goal, there are actions you can take to promote so much healthy affection and companionship that there will be room in your heart, mind, and schedule for great sex. Try the following ideas outside the bedroom for more frequent, better sex in the bedroom.
1. Get the House in Order
I know this seems crazy, but if the apartment or house is in chaos, it can be hard to take time for a great romp. Intimacy can often fall to the wayside in the effort to get the dishes done or the laundry folded. One way to help a hassled partner feel ready and willing is to be part of getting everything settled around the home. Chores may not feel like foreplay, but trust me: pitching in more than usual will definitely get their attention. 2. Comfort and Cuddle with no Strings Attached

Many marriages get to the point where a lot of physical touch is a simple signal that sex is desired. There?s nothing inherently wrong with this, but if your spouse is feeling overwhelmed, tired, or ill, every touch from you will start feeling like an obligation. Sex isn?t fun when it feels like you have to do it! Start changing the way you communicate a desire for sex so that you can sti...