Once you’ve decided on a wedding date, or just on the general idea of getting married, it can be tempting to get the ball rolling right away. But even once a few of the decisions have been made, there may still be a few reasons for having the wedding later, rather than sooner. Take the following reasons into consideration and keep your mind open about putting the wedding off. It isn’t an end, but a commitment to the right beginning.
1. He’s Less Engaged Than You’d Expect
The engagement itself can often be so romantic and beautiful that you can barely see through the rose-colored glasses. But be honest with yourself; was someone or something pressuring your groom-to-be into engagement" Pay attention to how he participates (or doesn’t participate) in the preparations for the wedding. If he’s disengaged, come to him at a time when he’s not stressed or tired and try to get some answers. Give him the freedom to say what’s really on his mind and offer him the chance to put the wedding off if that will elevate his spirits. But don’t just extend this courtesy to him; if you find yourself dreading aspects of the wedding or marriage, use your partner as a sounding board and see if you are truly ready for the wedding. We have the period of engagement for a reason because it allows us to really soul-search. Take advantage of as much time as you need. 2. One of You Is Going Through Tragedy or Hardship

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