The discussion of whether or not to have kids at a wedding can bring about some controversy. Even if it?s a child-friendly event, there are tons of questions that can arise on how to go about it, both from the couple?s side and the guest’s side. To make things easier, here are some answers to commonly-asked questions regarding having kids at your own or a loved one?s wedding.
1. How do I tell people I want a child-free wedding"

Just say it. Although some people think it?s impolite, you can specify that your wedding is an adult-only event on the invitation. Alternatively, or in addition, you can also repeat it on your wedding website. Be careful with your wording, too, as adding ?and family? to an invitation implies that everyone is able to come. Feel free to confirm, or have someone do it on your behalf, with anyone whom you worry might bring their children anyway. You might encounter some backlash, but remember that it is your day and your choice.
However, if you?re having a destination wedding, understand that this might be tough for some guests. In that case, if you need some adult-only time, you?ll have to provide some sort of babysitting service for part of the celebration period. If you have several invitees with children, you?re unlikely to be able to have a completely child-free wedding if you truly want them to come.
2. What if a guest shows up with their children anyway"

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