Having a flower girl or ring bearer at your wedding can make for some of the cutest pictures you’ll get from the whole day. A ring bearer allows you to have a young child from your family or friends participate in the ceremony?and they usually take it very seriously! Here’s some steps to making sure you choose the best possible ring bearer and that both of you have a good experience on the wedding day.
Consider Who Is in the Running
While people choose children of all ages to be the ring bearer, you can narrow your search to children between four and six years old, if you want. This allows the child to be old enough to take directions well, though some children younger than four can easily do the tasks of a ring bearer. Think about your friends’ children, any children you regularly babysit, and nieces, nephews, and cousins. Who might have the right temperament to enjoy this job and feel excited to do it" Narrow it down to a top choice before proceeding. Ask the Parents and Explain the Role

Obviously, you need to know whether the family is planning on attending your wedding in the first place, so sitting down with or calling the parents of the potential ring bearer is a good next step. If possible, ask them in a context where the child cannot hear, since the child may pressure the parents more to participate if they hear about the proposal. Listen to any concerns, and make sure that you work with them. For instance, some ring bearers are accompanied ...