Many couples abide by the tradition that a man asks a woman to marry him, often with a particular display of affection and the presentation of a ring. Regardless of whether all aspects of the tradition appeals to you, it can be a fun opportunity for one person to plan and execute a fun surprise, usually demonstrating their thoughtfulness, love, and good memories.
The problem with this, of course, is that it risks surprising the other person so much that they say “no” or “I’m not sure,” simply because they?ve not yet thought about the possibility. Much like lawyers asking witnesses questions in court, people who are proposing want to know what the answer to the question “Will you marry me"” is before they even ask it. One of the best ways to avoid the awkward situation of a surprise proposal rejection is to have an honest talk about the relationship with your significant other before you consider getting engaged. Below, consider some ideas for both the ?proposer? and the ?proposee,? to make sure everyone is on the same page even if the engagement time and place itself is a complete surprise.

Ideas for the Proposer
If you know you are ready to get engaged, think carefully about your partner?s attitudes: do they seem to reference future times you will be together" Do they behave in a way that makes them seem ready" Look for moments when they reference times you will spend together months or years out; think about times...