Your future spouse is your best friend, your confidant and your family. Nothing should be a secret. For most couples the past is the past and you’re both moving towards the future. That said, it’s important to share your past with one another so you know why you are both the people you are today. Sharing about past relationships can be hard, but there’s also a reason you’re not with the person anymore. Here’s some things to discuss with one another that will only strengthen your future as a couple.
Timing
You don’t want to bring up past relationships on a lunch date to cram it all in within an hour. You can slowly talk about it or you can sit down and just hash it all out when you are both ready and have some time to concentrate. It’s a tough topic so you want to be in a place where you can focus and really listen to one another. You also don’t want to wait too long to have this discussion. The day before your wedding isn’t the best time to open old wounds and throw feelings everywhere.
Have Patience
Be patient with one another. Sometimes past relationships are all about broken hearts so it’s almost like a death to talk about them. Understand there is hurt involved and be patient until the other is ready to talk about it. Explain to your future spouse you have no judgement whatever the story is and you are ready to hear when they are ready to tell. Help them feel secure telling you about the past. They may have b...