You?ve met their parents, and maybe you?ve even spent a fair amount of time with them. Because you want to like your potential new family so much, it can be frustrating to realize that something about their personalities really bothers you. The logistics of navigating the wedding-planning process, life as a newlywed, and family occasions moving forward is a lot to consider. It can feel overwhelming to imagine disliking any of your new family. You want your relationship with your spouse to last forever and their family is important to them. So, what do you do now"
Isolate the Issues
When the interaction with your in-laws gets tense or actually hostile, it can be tempting to assume that things will never get better. However, there is usually a root cause, even if you are feeling quite hurt and don?t want to think about it. One of the best things to do, once you aren?t interacting with your in-laws, is to find a way to take your mind off the interaction and blow off some steam. Chat with a friend who doesn?t know your in-laws, go to the gym for a long run, go a round with the punching bag, or watch some of your favorite comedy show. Try to think as objectively as possible. What are your in-laws’ issues, and what might be your own issues" They can be entirely at fault and still have a particular reason why they are behaving this way. Are they afraid that their child is pulling away from them" Do they have built-up expectations for what an ?appropriate? spo...