Engagement can be a time that makes you want to just bask in a celebration of romantic love; those sweet dates and fun trips to share the news with others can be a huge part of the fun of being engaged. That being said, it is helpful to also ask some of the difficult and important questions to each other about topics that you don?t want to surprise you both after the wedding.
If possible, these are good things to get settled before you start booking vendors for a wedding, since it will allow you to spend money confidently. You?ll know that you are on the same page about major life choices, and you?ll be able to enjoy the wedding planning process that much more.
1. What is Your Vision for Our Wedding"
The first big challenge of your marriage will be the actual event of your wedding: if one of you has always envisioned a small ceremony with one close friend and a sibling, and the other was expecting an all-out bash for everyone they know, you have some decisions to make. One of the best ways to manage your expectations in this stage is a simple exercise. Have each person take a piece of paper and write down the three things they most want out of the wedding experience. Usually, the deal-breakers are things like ?must have dancing,? rather than a very specific venue or guest list. Then, work together with the two lists to see how you can get to a ceremony that includes all six items.
Doing this work before you start wedding planning with other family members is helpful t...