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Hello everyone! Long time, no update?a lot has been going on in my life over the past month, and I fear I?ve lost my wedding planning mojo. But I did force myself to send a couple wedding-related emails this week, and Ben very kindly called his local registry office to clear up some questions about giving notice under our somewhat unusual circumstances, so I think we?re back on the planning path. Today, though, I want to talk about one of the major roadblocks I?and, I think, many other brides and grooms?have encountered: money. Not just the fact that weddings tend to be monstrously expensive, but also the taboo against talking about wedding spending in anything but the vaguest of terms.

While I?ve found SYGM?s Under 10K and Under 15K tags really helpful, on the whole there?s not much information about money on the blogs. There?s the occasional ?Why are weddings so expensive"? post (certainly a question worth addressing), and often you?ll see tips on ways to save. But it?s rare to see a blogged wedding with a price tag attached, let alone an itemized breakdown. And I wish that weren?t the case. Between blogs and Pinterest, there are so many unrealistic wedding expectations out there?not least my own?and I can?t help but feel like a lot of wedding disappointment could be avoided if it were easier to figure out upfront what kind of money you might need to afford a certain sort of wedding. I?m sure I can?t be the only one looking at gorgeous ...