Now that marriage equality is the law of the land, some LGBTQ couples who are planning to get married are forced to figure out some of the logistics that were traditionally defined by gender. For example, in opposite-sex couples (which may include people who are bisexual or transgender), traditionally the man is the one who proposes. In same-sex couples it can be more difficult to figure out.
So, who does do the asking in a same-sex couple" The short answer is: whoever wants to. The longer answer looks at many different factors that may influence who does the asking, and how he or she does so.
How Traditional of a Couple Are You"
A big part of figuring out who does the asking, and how, will depend on how traditional you want to be as a couple. Some people really want to have a proposal with a ring and someone getting down on one knee, whether it is you or your sweetheart. If this is the case, then you will have to figure out whether you should ask or leave it to your partner ? after all, you know him or her best. Depending on what you decide, you may need to go ring shopping and plan a little something special. However, be warned some of the LGBTQ couples (and straight couples) with the most traditional marriages that I’ve seen have been the most “nontraditional” couples in other ways, so it is not foolproof! Maybe your liberal punk girlfriend has always dreamed of her future wife asking her father for his permission first. Or, maybe your man fe...