Imagine that you’ve chosen, say, five of your best friends and family members to be your five bridesmaids. Your husband-to-be is ready with five suggestions of groomsmen to stand by his side in the wedding. To your chagrin, there are one or two of them that you really don’t think should be in your wedding. The situation probably happens occasionally, but we rarely hear about it because many couples keep this sort of conversation between themselves. (Honestly, that is probably a good thing!) At first, this feeling can just make a bride feel guilty; these are his friends and family, after all, so why should she have the last word" This is certainly partially true, but there are a few steps to go through in figuring out the situation. Consider Why You Reacted This Way
The first thing to do is take a step back. Your husband-to-be is likely to react negatively if you just wrinkle your nose and say, “absolutely not” to his picks. After all, many of the wedding decisions are probably yours, so this kind of reaction could make him feel really judged and powerless. Rather, think carefully about why these guys make you feel this way: do you have a complex history with one of them" Do you believe one of them might behave inappropriately at the wedding" Does one of them have a dramatic dating history with a bridesmaid or other person attending the wedding" Try to separate your personal dislike from your practical concerns over the wedding. Y...