You?d be hard pressed to find a relationship that doesn?t have occasional arguments. When two people decide to cohabitate and build a life together, there are going to be some disagreements. Sometimes arguments can be about serious life subjects, but more often than not, they are about something silly. Such as, one partner forgetting to take out the trash or constantly leaving their jackets on the back of chairs instead of hanging them up in the closet (just a random example, not at all based on this writer?s personal experience).
Although it’s likely you’ll have arguments flare up periodically throughout your marriage, newlyweds often have a period of adjustment to married life. This can be the case whether you?ve lived together for years, or if you?ve never even spent the night together. The important thing is to be patient and to learn strategies on how to defuse arguments with your new spouse. Here are a few ideas on how to cool down when you and your spouse are in the middle of a heated argument.

Take a Breather
When people are angry and upset, they?re more likely to say things they don?t mean. Your instinct might be to sit in a room and hash it out until you reconcile. While this isn?t a bad strategy, and it?s good to be communicative, sometimes you just need a minute to take a breath.
Take a brief pause and suggest that you separate for a few minutes to take some deep breaths and gain some perspective. Sometimes all it takes is a couple of moments of si...